TMI Tuesday blog
1. Your thoughts–is oral sex cheating on your partner?
If they haven't agreed to you doing such things with other people, then yes, absolutely it would be cheating.
2. What is cheating to you?
Having sexual contact with others without the agreement of the other person/people in your relationship that such contact is allowed. I don't see looking at porn or other such impersonal activities as cheating.
3. Does your partner know you masturbate? What do they think about that?
He allows me to masturbate, but if he is home I have to ask him first. He likes me to masturbate to keep the edge off, but he also likes it to be under his control. We both have a strong kink for taking/giving up control respectively. If he's not home I'm allowed to use my vibrator to orgasm once a day, but then if I wanted to do it more I'd have to ask. Sometimes he orders me to masturbate in front of him so he can watch. Other times he specifically forbids me from masturbating.
4. Think about the best sex you’ve ever had. Why do you consider it the best, what makes it so?
The passion. All the times that have been the very best have been extremely passionate, sweeping me away in emotion. There is pain, humiliation, fear: all the extreme emotions combine to make it passionate and lustful. There is no one best time. There have been many best times.
5. When you have nightmares, do you call out someone’s name?
No, I don't think so.
6. When you’re having an orgasm, do you scream a name?
If it is really intense I swear quietly. "Fuck &^*%*(&^*&^ owww god damn it"etc. or else I just moan quietly. I don't scream though, too conditioned to having quiet sex, I guess.
Bonus: Which best fits your usual reason for masturbating:
b. Stress relief
c. Saw someone/something sexy and you need to act out a sexual fantasy
d. It’s just what I do
I would say "d". It is kind of a routine for me.