Saturday, October 4, 2014

Rules and Enforcement

If you're going to have rules, you better feel like enforcing them.  

This was a topic on Fet, where a new Master had all these seemingly strict rules but in further discussion it turned out he didn't enforce them all the time.  Only if he felt like it, and sometimes harshly, but sometimes not at all.

Ok, I'm a dog trainer.  The trainer gets the dog they deserve, and the Master gets the slave he deserves.  We always say there is no one true way, but these are things that are important to ME, and that I have heard other slaves say are important to them as well.  They may not be universal, but still could be a handy guide for the newbie. 
  I think in terms of consistency, clarity, function, and success.  I believe this new Master is doomed to failure if he continues on this path of vague, unenforceable and oddly strict seeming rules, and here is why:      

1. Consistency:   It gives the slave confidence that what they are doing is right and necessary.

2. Clarity:  Don't make rules that contradict each other because then the slave will blow off the whole deal as impossible to follow.  The same for rules that are overly vague and flowery.  

3. Function:   Make sure your rules fit in with the realities of life.  No one can ask before doing EVERY single thing.  May I breathe, sir?  Oh, he's asleep, I guess I won't breathe then.  No.  This is not reality. 

4. Success:   Allow the slave to be successful by paying attention to consistency, clarity and function.


8 comments:

  1. Yes! Consistency is the main key for me, and the main contention I had with Sir. I get that he wanted to be easy on me when I was sick, or Having a flare up of my medical condition, but it was confusing and frustrating to both of us. When he rewrote the rules to include a "sick protocol" I was able to find the peace and consistency I needed to be the best sub I can be. he enforces those rules just as harshly as he does the standard rules and that makes me want to please him, to do my best.
    Sorry, long winded way to say I completely agree with you!

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    1. I have trouble when I'm sick too, because I still want to do everything (unless I'm really super sick in bed type of sick then I don't worry about it) but sometimes I have to deal with the way he wants to run things (imagine that, Master gets to run things!) which is to be easy on me when I'm sick, let me go to bed early and skip some things.

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  2. Agreed, there is nothing more disturbing than when rules are sometimes enforced. It sends mixed messages and leads to a downward spiral for sure.

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    1. Mmmmhmmm. Nobody's perfect, not even Masters, and sometimes my Master does things for reasons I don't understand, but yeah, agree.

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  3. I so agree to this! I am missing consistency right now with Him gone. I tend to let things slide when He is not here just because I know He can not see the dirty table or dishes in the sink.

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    1. There are ways to maintain the connection even if he's not there. We had to do some of that when Master was working out of town, but it was more difficult.

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  4. What happens when your Master is sick and can't enforce the rules and conditions set down to the agreement Y/you both have signed, what do YOU do then??

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    1. We don't have any agreement like that, for a start. He hasn't promised to do anything in particular, so if he feels like enforcing stuff or not is entirely up to him. I just think it is a good idea to do so. But yeah, if he's sick then I just do what I'm supposed to and wait for him to get better. If I fuck up and break a rule, then I wait for him to get better and try to do better next time. No one is 100% consistent, just like no one is the perfect slave. However, I do think being more consistent and striving for that is a worthwhile goal and will result in happier more obedient slaves.

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