Note: unlike most of my blogs this is not a personal issue. This is an issue that a lot of people have though, and I'm not here to tell them what to do, because I don't know.
I suppose when people ask unanswerable questions I should just STFU and not risk putting my foot in it. But I often don't, one, because I'm an idiot, and two, because I get the ridiculous idea that I might help someone.
What do you do if your Master/Dominant doesn't want the same things you want? You went through that whole compatibility check early on, of course, and you both loved the same stuff. You did all the stuff! It was awesome. Then years later he/she doesn't want it anymore. He's changed his mind. Or she has. What do you do?
The scary thing about being a slave is that you have no power. If he/she says no, you're stuck. It is a frightening thought, isn't it? You're just stuck. You can't "make" your Dominant do anything, and even if you somehow could find a key that would do that, you wouldn't want to use it because it would be all upside down then. You sure can't make someone want something they don't want.
You are dependent on what you have in your range of allowable tools to try to decrease your misery:
-pouting (warning: this one frequently backfires)
-patience and resignation
Then there are the ideas which may work for some, but would be completely out of the question for others:
-outsourcing (finding another person to meet pain needs outside your primary relationship)
What do you think?
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