This was something I wrote on Fet in answer to a question about how much intimacy is shared in D/s relationships. I am putting it here, honestly only because every time I think about what I wrote it gives me the warm fuzzy happy feeling, not to try to say that this is how it should be, or how it is for everyone in a D/s or M/s relationship.
Are there limits to your intimacy?
We don't have a line on intimacies, generally. He calls me Pumpkin.
I sometimes call him Sweetie on the messenger (or I just call him M). He rarely puts a restriction on whether I can touch him (basically only
one part, and then only sometimes). We hold hands when we go out, or when we
drive together. We are both very touchy-feely that way.
We are married, to each other, and we are romantically in love,
in addition to being Master/slave. I don't feel it makes me less
submissive or less of a slave in any way to have those intimacies.
boundaries are firmly drawn that I must obey, and he will notice and
correct my behavior if I slip.
It is not built around him holding me at
a distance. It is built around being as close and intimate as two
people can be and still respecting him and obeying him on my side, and
on his side expecting and demanding obedience.
I don't think I'd be particularly happy or satisfied without the intimacy, and I don't think my Master would either.