This was posted by oORavenOo, aka megan, as an explanation of the difference among a bottom, a sub and a slave. It pretty much hit home for me, so I'm reposting it with permission.
A Top, a Dom, and a Master are all sitting poolside on a warm, summer, day.
The Top says to the bottom, "Get me a can of coke". The bottom looks
at him and says, "Dude, where's your manners?"... the Top adds,
"...please?". The bottom, satisfied, smiles, gets up (getting a slap on
the ass from the Top as she does so), goes to the cooler, grabs the
first two sodas she finds, and gives him one of them, and keeps the
other for herself.
The Dom says to the sub, "Get me a can of coke". The sub runs off to
the cooler, and knowing that when He says "coke", He means it as a
generic term to mean "any cola flavored drink". The sub digs around and
finds His favorite- RC Cola. Since it's so hot, she pours it into a
glass of ice for Him. She notices it's also almost noon, so she quickly
makes Him a sandwich as well. His comfort is the foremost thing in her
The Master says to the slave, "Get me a can of coke". The slave bows
and runs off to the cooler, and pulls out an 8oz can of Coca-Cola,
unopened, and quickly returns to Him. The slave is unconcerned as to why
Coca-Cola and not Sprite, or why a can and not a bottle. As far as she
knows, that can is going to be lobbed into the pool for her to fetch
like a dog, going to be shaken up and sprayed on her, shoved into some
orifice, or might actually get drunk by somebody... she doesn't know,
nor does she care- her only concern was a can of Coca-Cola, returning it
as quickly as possible, and nothing else, as that is what would please
See, it is the mental state between the Dominant and the submissive
that defines whether they are Top and bottom, Dom and sub, or Master and
the Top and bottom only play during scenes, and have no power exchange outside of those scenes.
the Dom and sub have a power exchange outside of scenes that is based
upon submission, with the focus being upon thinking of the Dom's
desires and comfort, and the feeling of inferiority or smallness from
the sub, where questioning and negotiations are permitted. it is akin to
a "regular joe" being with a "Celebrity" sort of feeling of being "out
of their league, yet i'm with Them".
the Master and slave have a power exchange outside of scenes that is
based upon obedience, with the focus being upon precision to the
Master's orders, and the unconditional and unquestioning obedience from
the slave, regardless of the comfort level of the slave. it is akin to a
"private in the military" taking orders from a "General" sort of
feeling of "knowing your place, and having a duty to fulfill".
...the difference lies in the fact that the sub's focus is on
submission (learning, listening, and understanding ...recognizing that
the Dom's words can be likened to "good advice that should be heeded"
...before doing), while the slave's focus is on obedience (doing without
thought being an issue ...recognizing that the Master's words are law,
regardless as to how good they are).
And my additions:
It is all about obedience for me. My Master has emphasized this to me many times. He doesn't expect me to be a mind reader, he expects me to obey. I have some autonomy, when I'm home alone, or if I think to ask if he wants something, but the main requirement is obedience.
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