Friday, April 4, 2014

Orgasm Control: Kink of the Week

This is a big kink for my Master.   Ever since he taught me to orgasm on command he's taken great delight in making me do it wherever. In the kitchen.  In the car.  While chatting via computer.  In the store.  In front of people.   The more embarrassing, the better.  And also during beatings or sex of course. 

My orgasm has always been important to him, sometimes even more important to him that I have one than it was to me.  Back in former times, it was really hard for me to get one. They didn't just come (haha) naturally, there had to be a specific position and certain things done just right.  I'd only have one, if I were lucky.

Ever since we started a D/s relationship, though, I have become multi-orgasmic, and discovered squirting (excitement for him, kind of a pain in the ass for me, who gets to clean up).  I suppose there is little better proof of how everything surrounding power exchange turns me on.  

Orgasm denial is so far from one of my kinks I'd say it is an anti-kink, or something. Do. Not. Want.  Anyway, I'm happy that the most he does is make me wait a while sometimes.  It is not about the denial for him, but about being in control.  So, if he makes me wait, or tells me not to masturbate, or tells me how many times to masturbate, it is still all about the control. 

When we are together I have to wait for his command to orgasm, but if one accidentally slips through (it happens) it is not a big deal. I don't receive punishment for that.   At the same time, I try not let it happen because I want to obey.   If I'm getting close I can beg for an orgasm, and then he often has me wait just a fraction of a time (telling me WAIT) before giving the command.  Sometimes it is longer than a few moments and I try to do things to delay it.  

Because the word "wait" became so strongly associated with me already being on the edge, it started to be conditioned as a word that puts me on the edge of orgasm without actually coming.   This was an interesting but unanticipated side effect of using it that way. 

 Other times, he has given the command and nothing happens, because of the position, or competing stimuli, or some other reasons, perhaps my mind is not right.   I let him know immediately and he goes back to a more primal motivator and makes it happen.   

Here is another post on this topic, more about the training:

Orgasm on Command

At times he does force more and more orgasms out of me until my body is sore and wrung out.   I love it, and it is very intense.  It  turns me into a puddle of sex.   The most in one day (I used to have to keep count- now I don't) was 55, done over several sessions. 



Kink of the Week

13 comments:

  1. Fabulous description. Love it. And I'm right there with you...Orgasm denial may just be my biggest anti-kink!!

    How exactly did he go about training you to cum on command?

    Hugs,
    Fiona

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    1. It was in the link there. That was about it. Really it the same as classical conditioning. Like Pavlov. Set up the behavior to occur. As it occurs give the command. Begin to note the signals of impending orgasm and begin giving the command just as it is about to occur. Repeat. A lot. (Funnest training ever!)

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  2. I had been wondering how people learned to do this. Might be something to try--sounds like fun. Thanks for the info!

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    1. There are other methods too, that I have seen work. Some are more like hypnosis, and some using counting.

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  3. Always insightful. I'm learning that people cumming on command is a much bigger kink than i ever imaged.

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    1. Thank you! I did share your blog with my Master the other night, and he thought it was really hot too.

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  5. It is so interesting learning about others experiences in this area!

    ~Mia~ xx

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  6. I'm SO with you re: orgasm denial. Do NOT like it. And eventually it results in me not being able to come, or worse, not WANTING to.

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    1. From what I have read, this is a kink that works better when enforced on a male sub. Just from the differences in male and female sexuality, in general it seems like a man will just get more and more easily aroused the longer he is made to wait, whereas many many women simply shut down if they don't get any release, like you say.

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  7. I am very similar about orgasm denial, it is hot at first but then it just makes me grumpy

    Mollyxxx

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  8. I'm not big into orgasm denial, I enjoy the forced orgasms much better. I'd certainly like to be able to cum on command.

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